Taking Care of the Caregiver: Showing Your Appreciation
Taking care of someone who is going through an illness or a tough life situation is hard. Taking care of the caregiver can be even harder. When you see your parent, friend, grandparent, or other loved one going through the stress of taking care of someone else, it can be tough to know what to do to make their life easier. Let's take a look at some of the best ways to let a caregiver know that they're loved and appreciated.
Offer A Listening EarSimply giving your loved one a call to ask how they're doing can go a long way. Often, caregivers are bombarded with questions about how their loved one is doing, if there's anything their loved one needs, etc. Few people stop to ask how the caregiver is doing. Checking in and letting them know you're just there to listen, not judge, can be a great source of stress relief. There's no need to make it a formal conversation - asking how their day is going via text a few times a week can be enough to give them a little bit of hope in an otherwise stressful world.
From the moment they wake up until the moment they go to bed, caregivers are focused on making sure someone else has everything they need. Giving them a break can be a welcome respite from the daily stress of their role. Most caregivers won't ask for a break and may be reluctant to take one when offered. It's important to know their personality to judge how help would be best received. Perhaps they'd appreciate it if you just showed up at their home and offered to take over their responsibilities for an hour. If this wouldn't be a good fit for them, scheduling a time for them to get out of the house (even just to go for a walk or take care of paying bills) can be a great way to give them a chance to take a deep breath.
Give Them A Break
Send A Fun Surprise
Everyone loves getting mail, and getting a package can be even more exciting when you're someone who is going through a tough routine, day in and day out. Sending your loved one a fun, surprise package in the mail (even if you live right down the street) can be a great way to show them that you appreciate the hard work that they're putting in, and their efforts are not going unnoticed. There's no need to spend a ton of money. Picking up a box of their favorite candy, sending them a book they've mentioned, or sending a great-smelling lotion can all be great ways to let them know that you're thinking of them.
Check-In On Their Self-Care
When someone spends all of their time caring for someone else, their self-care can go to the wayside. Without badgering or parenting your caregiving loved one, be sure to check in on whether they're caring for themselves. Bringing up exercise, healthy eating, and drinking water are all important ways to remind them that they need to look after themselves to look after someone else. Offering to exercise with them, stopping by with a healthy meal, or offering to take over caregiving responsibilities while they visit the doctor or dentist are all much appreciated.
If your loved one is in a caregiving role, you're a light in their life for thinking of their needs as they go through the hard work of caring for someone else. No matter how you choose to show your appreciation, it will mean the world to them that you're thinking of them and their needs.